Chi-Am Chats – random reflections of a Chinese American

THE TONGS OF BOSTON, USA, and GIMGAI, CHINA

 By E. Y. Tong, Seattle, USA
 
  • IN THE MELTING POT
  • Completed May 31, 2005, revised September 28, 2005



    AT THE BEGINNING
    Throughout the history of China, it was said, there were frequent wars large and small, and armed conflicts of all kinds, which from time to time led to droves of people seeking refuge away from danger and famine. In addition, for two or three millenniums China had a national examination system that produced magistrates and government officials who were an elite class and who were placed in all corners of the vast nation as part of the imperial administration. There was also migration due to regional and national commerce. Rural people had always looked to the capitals and the cities and towns for their fortunes and for a better life. These were some the engines that had driven internal migrations of people in China. 
     
    In the early ages, the centers of the Chinese civilization were located in the northern regions around the “loop” of the Yellow River (or the Huang), wherefrom different individuals, clans and groups migrated.  The chosen refuges were usually the plains and valleys where there were abundant water and fertile soil, that is, along and to the shores of the Yangtze River (or the “Long River”) that cut west to east through the middle section of this vast land mass. One of the prime regions for such migration was what is now known as Guangdong Province in southern China that has been abundantly nurtured for millenniums by the Pearl and its many tributaries. With the importation of the culture and production technologies from China proper, this region became a very large and productive piece of land, supporting a continually growing population. 
     
    In time, the Han people from the Yellow River Loop, having a highly developed culture, and the less-developed indigenous peoples merged into a single, more or less homogeneous people, although different groups were able to retain some of their original ethnic characteristics.  For example, there was a large group who is known today as the Kejia (or “Guest People”, or Hakka in Cantonese) whose subgroups were scattered in almost all parts of China. The Hakkas were able to maintain their distinct ethnic identity to the present day, but without a central place to call home (therefore were known as “Guests” or sojourners). Deng Xiaoping, known as the chief architect of the present economic “openness” in China, was a Hakka; and the fortress-like round wooden houses of Fujian Province that are multi-family dwellings are attributed to Hakka builders who needed strong defenses against their indigenous neighbors. Other smaller groups and clans, upon settling in the southland, grew their roots deeply on the new land. After several generations, their ancestral homes became culturally and ethnically very remote, and contacts with the home regions became greatly diluted, just like the Jews of Kaifeng who had long lost their links with world Jewry. These Jews of China are another story that needs to be told.
     

    THE TONGS OF KAIFENG, HENAN PROVINCE AND GIMGAI, CHINA
     

    The Tong clan (see note 1 below) was one of these groups which, according to its recorded genealogy, can trace back to Kaifeng Prefecture in Henan (pronounced Ho-Nahn, “south of the river”) Province in northern China, not too far from present-day Beijing. In 1992, my brother Ling Tang got possession of an old genealogy chart from our home village in Jinji (or Gumgai, in Cantonese, and Gimgai in the village dialect), Kaiping Prefecture, Guangdong Province, and proceeded to update the document, completing it in February of that year, and revising it three years from that in January, 1995.  According to this document, the Guangdong Tongs originated with the four brothers who migrated together from present-day Kaifeng in the Song Dynasty (some 800 years ago), and my generation is the 23rd after the original settlement.  The eldest of the four brothers, named Gang, settled in Huaxian region; the second brother, named Zhi, settled in Zengcheng, the third brother, named Tung, settled in a place called Taishan (Toishan in Cantonese, Hoishan in the village dialect), from which the American Tongs of the clan derived. The fourth brother, named Ji, after some years, returned to Kaifeng, I assume he just couldn’t take the southern heat and humidity. Perhaps he was just a true Confucian and considered himself to be “a leaf on a tree that at the end must fall back to it roots”. Together, these four brothers represented the first generation of Tongs in Guangdong Province. The descendents of these Tongs had a loose clan association in both Guangzhou and later Hong Kong whose function is to keep the clan together, so it seems to me, but most of the time merely to conduct an annual memorial ceremony in honor of their common ancestors, and after the ceremony, to distribute chunks of the roasted pigs to all the members. I imagine this tradition remains today. It seems to me, particularly in recent years, however, that such clan associations have somehow outlived their usefulness as we urbanized and Westernized. The fact remains the Guangdong Tongs, as far as I know, have completely lost contact with any of their cousins from Kaifeng, like the Chinese Jews with world Jewry. However, recent information from the Internet has revealed that in addition to the Gimgai Tongs that have spread from Boston, there are Tongs from Taishan who have settled in Chicago and the West Coast of the U.S. and Canada.  In time, more will be said about these kin, when additional information comes forth. The present appearance of “chauvinism” in ignoring the Taishan Tongs is not intended, but it has come from my own ignorance, that is all. I will of course, try to remember a former colleague and fellow meteorologist named Wen Tang, PhD, from Taipei and originally from Nanjing. And, there is also the accomplished Chinese-American writer named Maxine Hong Kingston of California. Perhaps Maxine is directly related to the Taishan branch of the Tong tree.
     

    The family apparently fared quite well in the new land because Tung came south with a royal appointment from the Song court, or from some other high authority, and became the commissioner of roads for the Guangzhou region, which included the present-day provincial capital of Guangzhou. His descendants, through the subsequent years, spread to neighboring prefectures from Taishan.  One branch of the Taishan Tongs eventually in the Qing Dynasty moved to a village called Xintun Village, Jinji Township, in Kaiping Prefecture.  That is the home village of the Tongs who came to the U.S.A. and Canada, and perhaps also others who spread to other parts of the world such as the Philippines, and in the South Pacific.  When I was a kid, I remember hearing a story about a husky, tall and strong Tong (with “fingers the size of a small banana”) who was good with the pistol and became something like a bouncer in one of the South Sea Islands (maybe it was New Zealand).  When he finally came home to China after many years abroad living with White people, so they said, his eye color had turned to blue. It must have been one of those environmental tricks performed by the Russian scientist named Trofim Lysenko, who had advocated the dominance of the environment over genetics. Lysenkoism had dominated the world of Soviet science from the l930’s to the l960’s. Of course, it became the laughing stock of science at the end, but the Red face did not even blush.
     

    THE TONGS OF BOSTON
     

    In the mid and late 1800’s, as it turned out, China was again beset by chaos due to all kinds of natural and man-made disasters such as droughts and the Celestial Uprising. Needless to say, the economy was in shambles, and the people of southern China, being too far away from the Qing courts up north to receive remedial assistance, were facing real famine.  Around the Gimgai Township where the Tongs have derived their livelihood from the land, the soil had become quite depleted after centuries of crop production without nutrient replenishment. Life was becoming very hard. Just at this time, Western imperialism, as represented by the presence of Britain, Holland, Portugal, France, and other nations had opened up many areas of the world for exploitation and development. In Malaya and Singapore, for example, the British colonialists needed eager laborers that were more reliable than the tropical natives who, so they say, lacked both the appreciation for wealth and the desire to prosper. Further, so they also say, the tropical climates were just too conducive to napping at all hours of the day. This opened up opportunities for the “Celestials” – as the Chinese were called – whose basic cultural orientation contained a tenet for the support and protection of the family, and therefore the home village.  The thousands of Chinese who went abroad to make money to feed their starving families at home were indeed highly motivated by the misfortunes and dangers all around them. In fact, southern China became the prime source of export labor for many parts of the world:  Southeast Asia, Australia/New Zealand, the Philippines, and elsewhere, even Panama and the Spanish and Portuguese Americas.
     
     

    The California Gold Rush of 1849 added much heat to the fever, and it was said that shortly after its onset the Chinese population of California increased by over 100 thousand, mostly Argonaut gold-diggers looking for quick wealth.  They were, of course, quickly excluded from the “American Dream” due ironically to the Confucian virtue of diligence above all, a virtue that most Whites could not match but wished dearly to eliminate.  Certainly, there were other reasons that most Main Stream historians were reluctant to mention, and that is the dark fact that “heathens are subhuman and must be wiped out all together”, and “if you ain’t Christian you are heathen”. It was also ironic that the exclusion of the Chinese from the USA was made much more effective by an Irish immigrant named Dennis Kearney of the Workingmen’s Party, whose people had also suffered many years of British bigotry.  For example, one recruiting poster in Boston contained the words “Irish need not apply”. To make a long story shorter, it suffices here to say only that the Chinese Exclusion Act and its subsequent extensions effectively stopped further meaningful immigration from China. Furthermore, it was a sad historical fact that the Chinese immigrants, by and large, did not bring their women to America with them like the Polish or the Irish or the Italians, so that those who were already here were unable even to increase their lot with native births, not to mention the extreme loneliness that beset them all. It must have been like hell in those Chinaman days, in a weird community made up of only men.

     
     

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    DRIPPINGS FROM THE TONG SOUP BOWL
     
     

    The Boston Tongs, like most Chinese in America, were in both the laundry and restaurant businesses.  Harry, William, and William’s nephew Tommy, and Doo-Park and occasionally I were working in the Charlie Mun Hand Laundry until well into the 1960’s, while Herbert and Albert had long switched to the chop suey endeavors. Albert became the co-manager of the Cathay House, which for many years was the No. 1 joint in Chinatown, due primarily to high management standards laid down by Albert.  For example, before the opening hour of 3:00 p.m., all waiters and headwaiters had to line up for dress and fingernail inspection, while none of the other restaurants had this kind of institution. As a result, their evening dinner line, especially on Fridays and Saturdays, was frequently an hour long. Herbert was working as a waiter there and in the 1950’s his monthly pay was well over $300 while the average was somewhere around $200. The Cathay House was a first-class eating establishment in Boston.  In the late 1960’s, however, a rumor started in Italian North End that Cathay was caught by the City Health Department for putting cat meat in the chop suey, just at the time when the huge neon sign out front went out of order and the lower half of the sign (the “H A Y” in CatHAY) went out. Business was never the same afterwards and the restaurant was finally sold. Competitors would laugh at the place as being a house of prostitution. The saving feature was that President Nixon in 1972, bless his soul, “introduced” real Chinese food into this country and suddenly there were Hunan, Sichuan, Shanghai, and Beijing cuisines, and the Chinese restaurant business had its renaissance, delicious indeed. The old Cathay became a tea house, business bloomed once again.
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    However, the Chinese were like the little guy in a cowboy movie being bullied by a big bad guy.  In a fist fight, the little guy was knocked to the ground time and again, and blood was oozing out of his nose and mouth.  Self pride made him get up and swing, or attempt to punch, time and again without making any significant hits The big, bad, six-footer was playing along and just laughed with glee at his own ease of success and mindless animal cruelty.  The little guy in an almost vain try, finally found an opening in the laugh and gave one last kick, and this time the kick landed with some force right between the legs, nearly making the big bully a non-man. Well, perseverance under adverse conditions is indeed another one of the tenets of the Confucian teachings, and by hook or by crook, some Chinese kept on coming to the land of the Gold Mountain. Subsequently, many were able to indeed support their families at home with their blood and sweat working on jobs that the Whites were unwilling or unable to take: jobs like cooking chop suey or laundering clothes, or picking low-lying vegetables, and the like. 

     
    Meanwhile in Gimgai, China, one of the elders, belonging to the 21st generation after the southern settlement, decided to try his fortune abroad. In the face of Exclusion, it was uncertain how he was able to get documented for the journey across the Pacific, but come he did, and somehow participated in the group that broke the shoe-maker strike of North Adams, Massachusetts, sometime around the turn of the last century. It was uncertain as to what other jobs he had held, but apparently he had achieved some success as he was the first American Tong who pointed the way for some of the younger men from his village. One of the young men he helped was a distant relative named Hong Doo-Toy (later known in Boston as Harry Toy Tong). The North Adams shoe strike was short-lived, and the Chinese strike-breakers were soon left out in the New England cold, once again short-changed by the White man.  In the struggle for survival, they had to stay in the area for lack of money to buy passage back to the West Coast, and some settled around Boston in the laundry business, which turned out to be a good refuge that provided a degree of economic independence from the unfriendly main stream. In the 1950’s, there were still some 300 hand laundries in the Greater Boston area, and by the 1970’s only a handful remained. There was simply much more money to be made in the restaurant business. I, too, had hidden in and been benefited by both of these economic refuges when I was young, and I am very thankful for what the pioneers did for me.
     
    Besides the laundry and restaurant businesses, there was a Tong who did something a little different.  Harry’s cousin, Doo-Foon (known in Boston as Bing Fay Tong, or Benny for short, and to the neighborhood Chinese and Syrian kids alike, affectionately as Uncle Doofie) became a barber.  He had a little shop in the middle of Chinatown and was known and liked by everybody: men, women and children.  Why? I think it was because he was kind-hearted, generous, and forgiving.  Another reason was that he had in the back of his shop a little gambling joint which gave him some extra income, maybe more than “some”.  He frequently gave out loans to some losers, and frequently had to forgive such debts. He finally had a chance (the first American Tong so fortunate) to marry a local East Boston girl named Anna Wong, and proceeded to give up his barber/gambling business for a more open and legitimate enterprise. So, the Kin Company came into being in the residential part of Chinatown at 46 Hudson Street, across from the “Y” yard that was, all at the same time, a parking lot, a basketball court and, in the winter, a skating rink. Kin Company was a small grocery store, but also supplied meats to the restaurants. Each morning Benny and Adam Chin the driver would go to the wholesale meat market to select his pork and beef and immediately delivered to the customers.  The rest of the time he would be in the store like a Pa-and-Ma store owner. Kin was the only neighborhood supplier of lunch meats and bread for the kids’ school lunches, and candies to satisfy the insatiable sweet tooth. Eventually, he and Anna had four kids, Kenny, Bernice (Mimi), Judy and Ruthie. It was a shock to me that at Thanksgiving dinner in 2004 to learn of Kenny’s sudden death at age of about 53 of a burst brain aneurysm, while carving the turkey,.

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    DRIPPINGS FROM THE TONG SOUP BOWL
     

    For many years, the third floor at 46 Hudson Street was a bachelor apartment housing Albert, Herbert, and me while I was going to school. The fourth floor was the storage.  Almost daily after school I would go help out in the store, cashiering, putting boxes of goods in storage, or stacking the shelves, etc., and sometimes delivering.  I remember for many years on Fridays, I used to deliver a 100-pound bag of sugar to the fifth floor apartment of old Mrs. Hom, who must have been in her 70’s.  She had already collected the left-over cooked rice from various restaurants.  With the sugar, she was making jugs of rice wine, and sold them to the restaurants, as the old source of imports had broken due to an embargo against Red China. The customers would always come to the house with jugs to be filled as they go to work, so there is no need to have a storefront at all.  How nice! Mrs. Hom knew everybody in town and had been extremely well-like, especially by the neighborhood children who from time to time received small candy money from her. Finally, she was hauled into court not once but several times for making moonshine for sale.  Each time the judge would let her go simply because His Honor did not believe a well-liked, kind old lady could be like an armed bootlegger, like in the prohibition days of West Virginia. Not in urban Boston anyway where there were no back woods and hidden caves. Widowed old lady Hom was making a good living. When she died some years later, she literally had a mattress stuffed with cash.  Some immigrants just did not trust the banks, nor did they trust the IRS either.

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    I must record here that the store for many years was a regular and informal meeting place of the Sunday laundrymen, whose bonds of friendship have no modern equivalent that I know of. The store was indeed on Sundays a club house for the laundrymen who gathered to chat and to strategize about certain things like immigration matters, buying and selling a business, etc. There was always coffee brewed with an egg with its shell, and chased with real cream and sugar, free. When in season, Benny would also serve the best fruits that he had brought back from his morning visits to the Boston Hay Market. Benny took not a single penny for these services. What was more, Benny was a very good cook and on each Sunday he would cook a most delicious and free dinner for all comers.  I learned early on from him that before grilling a steak, one dunks it in a pot of boiling water for a few seconds so as to seal in the juices.  I had the best meals (and steaks) of my life there, and feelings of great warmth as I often think back to those early immigrant days.. 
     

    DRIPPINGS FROM THE TONG SOUP BOWL

    The Mass Pike extension into town in the 1960’s completely eliminated our store and destroyed the neighborhood.  The entire east side half of Hudson Street gave way to the on-ramp to the west-bound of the Massachusetts Turnpike.  Where the store used to be, there is now a big overhead sign. If I stand on Kneeland Street and look south, I estimate my bedroom would be where the “MASS” of “Mass Pike” is today.  In the summer time with the windows open, I could hear some of my friends playing basketball across the street at the “Y” court. In the winter time, of course, one could not hear anything, but I knew there was ice-skating on the flooded and frozen court.  Even in a crude way, the “Y” tried to take care of the young.
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    PATRIARCH HARRY OF THE AMERICAN TONGS

    Now, Harry did not buy a certifying paper like many of the others, but chose to come under the immigration category of merchants, using his true name of Tong.  He had to, however, stay in Hong Kong for some months to “build up” his qualifications (qualifications as blindly required by U.S. immigration laws) so that he could gain entry legally. Apparently, to become qualified as a merchant, one had to have commercial certifications of some kind.  As most of the laborers in the gold fields and railroad construction sites were pure peasants with little education, the “exclusionist” law makers in Washington and California must have added this token category to (quixotically) lessen their sense of guilt in the face of equal justice for all and Christian charity.  The little guy who got knocked bloody so many times, however, could indeed sometimes find a small opening and kick the big bully straight between the legs, as Harry seemed to have done. It was, on the face of it, a small bureaucratic victory, but the end effects were quite remarkable and quite in fact monumental to the subsequent Tongs of Gimgai. Harry Tong’s sojourn in Boston in fact had launched the settlements that are similar to that which took place over 800 years ago in Guangdong, China. Some Gimgai Tongs have settled in Edmonton, Calgary, and Toronto in Canada, New Jersey, New York, Detroit, Seattle, as well as Boston in the USA. As I am the son of Harry’s younger brother and was transplanted to America by Harry himself, let me tell you what I know about this small saga of the Tongs. It started from the very beginning in Boston, Massachusetts, U.S.A. 
    To properly put Harry the Patriarch in the whole scheme of things, we need to go one generation earlier, in Generation 21st. Harry’s father, Hong (local village pronunciation, see Note 1 below)Yui Chi, had three brothers, from him and the brothers had derived all of the American Tongs. Harry Toy Tong, who passed away in 1968 at the age of about 85, was a member of the 22nd generation of the Guangdong Tongs. He was the first-born son of Hong Yui Chi, who was the eldest of the four brothers. Therefore, being first born of the eldest brother had placed Harry at the top of his generation, as existing tradition had required. Harry became “the head” of his generation of brother and cousins, offspring of Yui Chi and his brothers. In the Chinese scheme of things, first cousins, and sometimes second cousins as well, with the same surname are considered brothers and sisters. Such a concept of brotherhood had indeed a meaning of special and understood blood relationships perhaps akin to what some American Indians or Mafiosi might hold by a force of culture. It was not easily explainable, but was just so, that is all.
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    DRIPPINGS FROM THE TONG SOUP BOWL

     
    Drippings 1.
    When I was in the Army stationed in Fort Meade, Maryland, some of the troops would often go to McGuire Air Force Base, next to Fort Dix, New Jersey, to catch a free ride to Europe with the Military Air Transport Service (MATS). All one needed was the proper identification and a pass from the home unit.  It was that simple. My pay at the time was $93 a month which was about enough for personal expenses, but I had saved up about $300 for such a trip from cutting hair at 50 cents a head on Thursday and Friday nights in the barracks latrine for the Saturday morning dress inspection. Business was quite good, actually. So I consulted Uncle Harry about such a fun trip because I did want to see Europe.  Under normal circumstances, a trip to Europe would be beyond my reach.  But Uncle Harry disapproved of such a frivolous expenditure of funds. “You got the money?” he asked. “Yes,” I replied. “Let me have it. Hand it over,” he said. I did.  He took my $300 and put it in the bank for me. I needed every penny of that $300 later when I returned to college.  Very practical wisdom with patriarchal authority, Uncle Harry had.  I did subsequently get to Europe(Switzerland, England, Benelux, Germany, Austria, Croatia/Slovenia, Greece, Italy, and Bulgaria)  several times and enjoyed it greatly, of course, but several  decades later.
    Drippings 2.

    As a good immigrant boy, of course, I took every opportunity to make money. About two months before Christmas, the U.S. Post Office would announce the recruitment of temporary workers for the upcoming rush. In the 1952 season, I think, I applied and got the job as a mail bag handler, working upstairs on the third floor of South Station where the mail bags came in from the trains and then redistributed to different other destinations.  My job was to pull and drag the heavy bags to the appropriate holes on the floor and drop them in according to the marks on the bags.  It was a pure labor job requiring no brains, so I thought. I was okay after the first night of work, but after the second night my fingers began to bleed around my nails, and the skin on my hands began to crack, even after the heavy application of some ointment.  This had gone on for a whole week and in great pain before I found out that I could go to the supply room to take out a pair of heavy gloves that were specifically designed for work with tough and rough canvas bags.  I worked through that Christmas season in reasonable shape on the job that I had thought requiring no brains.

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    Birthright leadership certainly does not automatically make a good leader, as Chinese classics have long lamented on family tragedies arising from misplaced and under- qualified authority. Harry had to learn on his own through various avenues such as from his village elders and from self-education. I don’t know what formal education he had received, but when I finally met him in Boston, he was literate enough to read the New York Times each Sunday to review the stock markets and to catch up on the week’s news. Among his other laundry friends who gathered customarily in Chinatown on Sundays, he was often the one to enlighten the group, and of course, in Chinese. From that one may safely surmise that he was a translator as well. Perhaps by this time, having lived on American soil for some years, his friends had also become proficient in a brand of Chinese abundantly embedded with English words, just like the cacophony among other immigrant groups, so it must have seemed to outsiders. These casual Sunday gatherings served an added purpose, that is, to exchange information on opportunities and strategies for bringing in worthy younger people back home that might be eager to come. Directly and indirectly, Harry was responsible for bringing over several cousins:  Doo-Hok (Jackson), Doo-Liam (Albert), Doo-Ying (Herbert), Doo-Foon (Bing), Doo-Hem (William), Doo-Ting, and Doo-Park. Today, of course, Harry and all of these cousins are no longer living, but these people, in turn, had helped bring over others to settle in this new land. When Uncle Harry was buried in the Forest Hills Cemetery in Boston, I chose and had engraved these words on his headstone:

    Hehad a selfless life in settling the displaced in this new land”. 

    Displaced” here includes those in the realms of politics, economics, and the freedom of pursuing opportunities and education.  I am happy to sketch here the tree of these North American Tongs and those derived from them. (For the direct motivation behind this writing, please refer to Note 3 below.)

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    DRIPPINGS FROM THE TONG SOUP BOWL

    Work in a Chinese restaurant in Boston as a waiter was a bit hard, but then when you were young hard work never seemed to have any lasting effect. What hurt was the fact that the twelve or thirteen hours on the job were lacking any degree of intellectual stimulation: it was just an exchange of time and physical labor for money.  I do remember a period when I worked weekends at the China Sails in Salem, Massachusetts, where on Saturday the hours were from 10:00 in the morning until 2:00 the next morning with the usual pay of five dollars a day plus tips, but no overtime pay.  I was about 20 years old then, weighing about 140 pounds, and physically quite fit.  Still, when I came home on Sunday morning I would be almost dead, cursing this “capitalistic exploitation of the common worker” and the evil boss named David Wong.  At the end all I could do was to pour some Epsom salt in the tub and soaked my stiff body in it for half an hour, once or twice even fell asleep in the water.  Uncle Harry sometimes would wake up and purposely asked if work was especially hard that night.  When he heard an affirmative answer, he just laughed out loud in deep appreciation, for he did truly believe all young men should have the benefit and opportunity of training by fire.  He himself had been brought the truth that hard work hurts nobody.

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    NORTH AMERICAN SETTLEMENTS

    First, Uncle Harry was married to Wong Shee (see Note 2), with whom he had a daughter, Mei Yuk (Jade), who passed away in New Rochelle, NY, in January of 2005 at age 93. She was survived by a son, Tom Tam Siedule of Ottawa, Canada, two daughters Margaret Yu and Cecilia Yu, of New Rochelle.  Tom and his wife Ivy have a son and a daughter; Margaret and husband Tom Yu have two sons, Sherman and Raymond, both of whom are married and settled in the New York City area. Cecilia and her husband Suen have a daughter, Jennifer, a lovely young lady in college and destined to succeed in whatever she does, I am sure.  These Yu kids and other kids off-shooting from the Tong tree seem to be so much smarter in accessing their world than we in our time. Harry and Ahmoo (Aunt Wong Shee) also had a son who died in infancy, and subsequently adopted a son, Sau-Shan, who immigrated to Brazil in the 1950’s. Brother Sau-Shan had married a German-Brazilian lady there and had a son who some years ago tried to locate his Aunt Jade while he was in the Brazilian Navy or Merchant Marines. Little else is known of the Brazilian Tongs, except that Sau-Shan had passed away several years ago.
     

    Harry had brought me to this country with the aim that I might be smart and diligent enough to make something of myself. I was the luckiest among all my peers here as I was the only one who did not have to pay back by “piggy body”, meaning the expenses involved in the whole journey: the plane ticket, the paper expenses, etc., etc. I had once calculated that if I had to repay that debt at the prevailing wages of the time, it would have taken me 15 years of full-time work to do so. I do gratefully owe my opportunities to my uncle Harry for a debt-free life here, which had enabled me to complete college with a Master of Science degree, the first one in my immediate family to attain that educational level. I am now in the autumn of my days in retirement, and often think of my past with many thoughts of him.  Even Jing, my second son, says he has thoughts of thanks for him each morning, although they had never met. Harry had died two or three years before Jing was even born. In my branch of the tree, there are my first-born Darren and my second-born Gregg (Jing), both are now grown and are productive members of this society.  They live happily in Boston. 
     

    In line with the one-bring-one tradition of the Tongs, I did find an opportunity in the late 1970’s and placed my brother Ling’s second daughter, Virginia, in the Boston University language program.  She quickly became proficient in English and successfully completed her education, married a citizen and, some years later, brought her parents and sisters to this country. Virginia is now an administrative executive with the Boston City Hospital and Medical Center. All together, eight persons got settled here, all in a legal way. They are now apparently happy with life here, at least I hope so. I believe they do greatly appreciate what the difference is between here and there.
     

    Jackson, Albert, and Herbert were brothers who had gone through the sweat-shop years with Harry in the Charlie Mun Hand Laundry at 88 Massachusetts Avenue in Boston, with the steamy workshop located on Dudley Street in Dorchester. When I first came over, Herbert and Albert had spared no effort in telling me what life was like during their early years.  They all had to work six days a week and 15 hours a day. Uncle Albert related that the most precious thing for him was sleep.  As they started work at five in the morning ironing shirts, by breakfast at eight, they were beginning to doze off, exchanging food for a few moments of sleep. On Sunday, the day of rest, they had to attend English lessons at the church. The classes were taught by some kind-hearted old ladies full of missionary zeal. They, and others later, all seemed to hold very fond memories of that experience. In their day, strange as it may seem, that represented the only significant exposure to the America that they had come to live and to make a living. It was for some reason difficult for them to even touch the main stream of America. Life for these Chinamen was indeed very isolated. The melting pot did not exist for them. Their big family of father, two mothers, and twelve brothers and sisters back in Hong Kong had depended on them for support.  So when one day Jackson, the eldest, decided that he had had enough, and left to go back to China, I was told that Albert just wept for the heavy load about to be placed on his shoulders. That was back in the mid 1930’s. Life, of course, went on somehow and everybody survived. In the 1970’s, Jackson came back to Boston, this time with his two wives and six children, who are now grown and have families of their own. All of these branches and twigs are well and living mostly on the East Coast, one in New Jersey and the rest in the Boston area. 
     

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    DRIPPINGS FROM THE TONG SOUP BOWL
     

    During high school, and before I promoted myself to restaurant work, I worked summers in the laundry workshop in Dorchester.  It was always hot and steamy no matter what the ambient weather was, due to the steam shirt presses. Cousin Tommy was usually the cook for our two meals a day, lunch and dinner.  He was quite a cook, although he had no formal training in the kitchen, and he often prepared a cold bitter melon soup with a little pork, and chilled tomatoes directly out of a can with sugar added. In the heat, these two dishes went super-good with rice, believe it or not. 

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    Jackson, Albert, and Herbert have three sisters, Shui Lin (Aunt Five, as we customarily call her), Bik Ha (Aunt Nine), and Lai Shan (Aunt Ten) who grew up in Hong Kong. Breaking the old Tong tradition of male-exclusivity, all three ladies in their respective ways and means, took up the American trail and settled in North America. Aunt Shui Lin, back in 1948 or 1949, had married a U.S. citizen, and with her son, Peter, eventually and happily settled in Fremont, CA, where Peter, a PhD, was an independent and successful computer consultant.  Aunt Bik Ha and her husband, Bing Yiu Lam, with their four children succeeded in settling in Boston. They had a happy life here and three of their children completed college, and all are productive members of society.  Aunt Ten and her husband, Kwok Leung Tang, retired in Hong Kong, then joined their children Victor and Beatrice in Toronto, Canada.  They seemed happy with their Canadian retirement, as we have visited them two or three times during the last few years. I frequently think of Aunt Ten and her sisters with great affection, a sentiment which arose from their care of me in my youth.
     

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    DRIPPINGS FROM THE TONG SOUP BOWL

    Bachelor Uncle Herbert liked to have his coffee and liked to talk, so we often had aimless conversations from time to time on his day off and when I want to take a break from school work. I think he felt particularly good about me being a college boy.  Another “hobby” that he had was to take me to the well-known Filene’s Bargain Basement, especially in the Fall, to buy me a winter jacket. As I often walked across the Massachusetts Avenue Bridge over to Cambridge to school, the wind-breaker jackets he bought me came in real handy in many a wintry morning and evening.  I have memories of great Tong warmth and my gratitude remains today. 
     

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    During the period just after War World II, Albert and Herbert were supporting a brother, Doo-Wui in Guangzhou, China, who was able to complete middle school and went on to complete Lingnan University Medical College. He is the first and only doctor in the Gimgai Tong clan. Dr. Tze Wai (Doo-Wui) Tong eventually came to the U.S. as a refugee, after squeezing through a very small crack on the border with freedom in Hong Kong.  He managed to obtain medical licenses from several states and became a board-certified radiologist as well.  He and his wife, Sandra, are living in Detroit where he had contributed a lifetime of service to the Veterans Hospital there, and raised a family with three boys, Alan, Wilbur and Andrew.  Sandra is an accomplished concert pianist from way back in her Hong Kong days, and when we visited them in September, 2004, we learned with great pleasure and admiration that she was able to, while raising her children and caring for her aged mother, grow her tree of pianists, some went on to prime music schools and the concert circuits. These Michigan Tongs are doing fine in their corner of these United States: treating war-damaged men and women, saving lives, promoting product design, and doing fine art – all to the good of this great society that we now call our own, thousands of miles from that ancestral home in Gimgai, China, about which some of us urbanized and Americanized Tongs unfortunately know very little, even to this day. (The above was completed on January 28, 2005.  On this 20th day of May, 2005, after an absence of over three months for treatment of nasopharyngeal cancer in Taiwan, my health has returned almost completely, and the writing resumes herewith.) 
     

    During September and October, 2004, YC and I, and brother Shouqi, visiting from Guangzhou, China, took a long-planned trip around North America.  We drove for five weeks over 13,000 miles across Canada to the Atlantic Coast, then came back to Seattle through the American South and West. It was the journey of a lifetime. We were glad to be able to reunion with family and friends along the way, even just for fleeting moments. The trip was to be my “last hurrah”, having reached the age of almost 70. At any rate, in Toronto visiting Aunt Ten and her family, we learned of some new immigrant Tongs that have settled in Canada. My father’s cousin, Hong Doo-Yiu, who is no longer living, had settled in Edmonton, Alberta, to join his married daughter, Joanna Tong and her husband Albert Yu. In addition, Tong Sau-Hong of my generation, who had also passed away, had settled in Calgary with his three grown children. I have not met these Tongs, but will endeavor to look them up one day when wanderlust strikes again. They are not really too far from us in Seattle.
     

    In addition to these people, there were also a mother and her children that belong to another of the Brazilian Tongs and had settled in Toronto. They lived a little far from Aunt Ten’s home in Scarborough, and we were in a hurry to get on the road that day, so we did not get to meet them, even though brother Shouqi had met the mother years ago in China when she was just a teen-aged girl. This cousin who belongs to the generation below mine, is the daughter of brother Tong Sau-Pang who had in the 1950’s emigrated to Brazil along with brother Sau-Shan. In the early 1980’s when I was stationed in Hong Kong, brother Sau-Pang had come through and we had a nice dinner together.  It is sad to note that I never saw him again as shortly after his return to Brazil he too passed away, prematurely at about 60. 
     

    THE BIGAMISTS 
     

    Although as some learned scientist would say, the human male is by nature a polygamist, just like some of the animals in nature.  Perhaps primordially it was true, but I would like to believe that we have been behaviorally modified by cultural and environmental factors as well.  But, if one only looks at the Chinese society of perhaps half a century ago, one sees cases after cases of bigamy and polygamy all over the place, and within our own families and clan as well. I heard in those tolerant days, the husband who desired a second mate could just find himself a willing woman, and after some degree of domestic turmoil, just offered some incense and candles in front of the family ancestral shrine to finalize his new acquisition and enrolled her legally into the family, oftentimes after the fact of cohabitation. It was that simple. I also understand that in the Muslim world similar tricks could be pulled as well by the men.  Modern feminists would no doubt flip their lids hard, unfortunately only against the stubborn male concrete wall. Be that as it may, bigamy is a fact in a good part of this world. I only wish to be honest here in telling my story. Besides, the bigamists in my story are all dead now, so no unusual judgmental hurt can result, I hope. But, if the truth hurts, so be it, and I am sorry I had to tell it to set the record straight.
     

    For those of us who grew up in the relatively modern world, or in modern America, it is of course illegal and/or immoral (or psychiatrically too strenuous) to have more than one wife at any one time. Throughout Chinese history, of course, we have often heard of the emperor having in the “back room” (the “rear palace”, that is, and it must have been a huge place) something like “three thousand beauties” who made up his one bona fide empress and the rest concubines. To me these poor women could probably and properly be called royal sex slaves, or perhaps a little bit more legal than that. Everybody took that to be a fact of life and whatever the emperor did was certainly legal, even if by force of authority. However, that system did cascade down to many, many layers below the imperial court, perhaps down to the individual village merchant with a little bit of money. My maternal grandfather, whom I had never met, had two wives and he was only a street peddler of Shunde Prefecture in Guangdong Province.  His first wife had produced four children but only a girl survived, therefore no heir. His second spouse had two boys and three girls, my own mother among them. But as it would frequently beset agrarian communities in China, this family was desperately poor and all the children had to leave the village to make a living.  My mother was, I think, sold to a family in Shanghai to be a domestic servant. She somehow had worked herself out of that deep hole in the ground by paying off her debts eventually and married my father who was a civil servant. 
     

    My maternal grandfather and my own father were the first bigamists that I know, but there were more, of course. As it was apparently customary in our home village, a man about to go to the city to seek his fortune was often arranged to get a wife who would join the family more to be a replacement worker than a wife - wife in the modern sense of the word.  My Uncle Harry had this done to him before he left for America, and he was home only long enough to beget a daughter, sister Jade, and had never returned to China, for various reasons. He had accepted his brokered marriage as a matter of course. But one of the reasons that he was willingly separated from his family was probably that he felt he was obligated to support his brother (my father, who had lost his father at age three) who was about ready to pursue his education in Hong Kong.  At any rate, my father Doo-Yet had his arranged wife, had a daughter, and left the village. He eventually completed his English middle school education and passed the examination for the Chinese Customs Service, which, for some very strange reason, was at the time administered by the British, while the name of the service was indeed “Chinese Customs Service”. Shortly after he took the job, he was sent to station in Shanghai, where he met and by deceit married my mother. But I know that marriage was full of deep mutual affection, and likely also great love.
     

    Of course, no details were ever discussed in the family as to the romance between Mother and Father, but I think I know for quite sure that my mother was never told that she was Number Two. When she later found out, the situation was such that she had no choice but to accept that fact (for divorce was never an option in those days, especially for a woman with children, I suppose). And, from her subsequent actions, I am quite sure that she felt both she and Father’s first wife, who remained a virtual widow in the village, were victims of an unjust male-dominated society. My mother, bless her kind Buddhist heart, took the responsibilities of managing two families with my father’s salary, even through the eight very difficult years of the War with Japan. Actually, Uncle Harry’s wife Ahmoo and daughter Jade and son Sau-Shan also came under our immediate family as custom and tradition would dictate. My mother, therefore, became a resource for three families (wholly or partly) for most of her married life. Again, bless her kind Buddhist soul, indeed.
     

    When brother Ling and I had finally reestablished contact after two decades of Red rule in China, and he had successfully settled in the U. S., we were able to occasionally talk about our childhood days in China. After sister Jade’s funeral this past January, we had a few free and easy days together in Boston. He remembered to me how sporty Jade and Sau-Shan were in their youth in Hong Kong. Brother Sau-Shan did not do particularly well at school but was dressed quite stylishly with all-white shoes, shirt, and trousers with suspenders.  Jade was particularly good at tennis in the late 1930’s. In fact, she was something of an international star, and an object of a few romantic pursuits by young men.  One of her suitors named Longo Tam was particularly memorable, who came courting in a flashy-fashionable motor car.  In order to befriend any of the Tongs, Longo would offer rides to the kids and Ling was always looking forward to that fun and thrill.  Eventually, that courtship led to a shotgun marriage, to the great dismay and sadness of Harry in America and my father in China. But, what had to happen happened, and apparently nothing could be done to stop that romance. However, as it later turned out, Longo already had a wife with three daughters somewhere and his bigamist marriage to Jade at the time was not reversible. Harry and Ahmoo had to accept that fact. And, Father, although serving as “deputy patriarch” after Harry, could not honestly and righteously say or do anything, as he was a bigamist himself.
     

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    DRIPPINGS FROM THE TONG SOUP BOWL 
     

    I am, of course, not a bigamist, but I did have two wives at two different times.  My first wife, Mayling Soohoo, and I did not get married in the old village brokered style.  I met her at a picnic and was greatly impressed by her fluent and pure Toishanese, very rare for an American-born.  That marriage came out of free courtship without any family duress of any kind, but it failed for eventual incompatibility of the worst kind.  The divorce was a bit painful but was concluded in a friendly, no-fault way.  This goes to show that not all marriages out of free courtship are failure-free, but can and often get on the rocks in the apparently normal course of events. On the whole, however, brokered marriages have a better chance of tragedy, for example, my father’s first marriage, Uncle Doo-Park’s marriage, and Uncle Harry’s marriage did not, to say the least, bring happiness to the men involved, not in the long-term sense. They had, however, created three virtual widows. I am very glad that I am finally blessed with a lady in Yeuching, who will walk down the long beach with me in my twilight and hand in hand.

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    Luckily for Longo and everybody else, the two halves of the Tam family were able to co-exist without any discernible problems, and in fact, they at times did live together under one roof. Everything was not, however, peaceful and heartache-free.  Further events continued to show that Longo was still chasing other women, and Jade and the first wife had to on occasion get united in joint efforts to combat (but only vainly) Longo’s womanizing endeavors.  Somehow, Longo and his first family were successful in settling in the San Francisco area after failed attempts at promoting construction projects such as a large-scale desalination plant for thirsty Hong Kong. And after dabbling in some other projects, he was reportedly able to gain fame by introducing a fast-growing tree to China after Mao’s “Great Leap Forward” campaign had nearly completely deforested the nation. I heard he was subsequently given a patriotic medal of some kind by Deng Xiaoping himself.  Unfortunately, he passed away during one of his trips to China. Later, Jade’s daughter Margaret went to China to take care of some unfinished business and found an additional hitherto-unknown half brother, offspring of her father’s by an unknown lady. 
     

    From what my mother had told me, Longo not only was good at convincing women of his love, but also in convincing others about his business ideas. My mother, even as discerning as she was, had invested several bars of gold from her hard-earned life’s savings, and saw that investment evaporated with Longo’s departure for Hong Kong, just ahead of the advancing Chinese Liberation Army in 1948.  Even the nice western-style house that Longo deeded to her as “collateral” had indeed been previously already deeded to other debtors in the chaos-induced deceits of the time and by Longo’s super-salesmanship. Longo was indeed a man of ideas and dreams and abundant sexual passion, but perhaps he had lived at a time when morals were too loose, and success required real substance. Eviction of my mother and her family brought sadness and great anger, even to a kind Buddhist heart. 
     

    There were of course other bigamists still in the clan.  Beginning with two generations above mine, one of my grandfather’s brothers named Tong Yue Kwon became a businessman in Hong Kong, probably quite successful at the time.  In the old days having a large family was considered a source of pride. In fact, one of the New Year’s greetings was to wish someone prosperity and more children, as if the latter were a commodity like money. After all, Confucius had for a couple of millenniums taught the Chinese that filial piety was one of the top rules of life, so having a lot of children meant a prosperous retirement for the parents.   Granduncle Yue Kwon, probably desired a large family, had taken in two wives, one Seeto Shee and one Leung Shee,  who produced a total of twelve children, among them were Jackson, Albert, Herbert, Tze-Lop, Tze-Wai, and their sisters. Jackson followed his father’s footsteps and had two simultaneous wives as well (Kwan Shee and Shiu Shee), even in the law-governed United States, with a total of six children, all are well. 
     

    Yue Kwon’s older brother, Yue Heng, also had two wives, Lee Shee and Deng Shee, who gave him two daughters and two sons: Doo-Ting and Doo-Park.  Doo-Ting served in the U. S. Army honorably and fought in Germany during World War II, and passed away during the early 1970’s as a lonely and lost soul in New York City. I suspect he had somehow been psychiatrically wounded in the war.  Doo-Park gave a good part of his life serving the Boston Redevelopment Authority until his death in 2004, from emphysema and a life long indulgence in cigarettes  He was outgoing and always helpful, but died also as a lonely soul without a normal family of his own.  His brokered wife in the village finally settled in Toronto, Canada, with her adopted son, but husband and wife never did meet again, sadly neither in person nor by phone. How do we now, as descendents of that village culture, make a judgment of that marriage custom in this day and age? Luckily, that custom seems not to exist any more, not with us in America anyway. Parts of us all are going into the Great Melting Pot and in a way have become a lot more enlightened regarding love and family.

    IN THE MELTING POT
     

    The saga of the Tongs in North America would be incomplete without a “sequel” about their offshoots in this new land. First, after over a century of Chinese settlement in this part of the world, we have finally left the bottom of the well that is Chinatown in which the sky was only a little circle as one looked up.  As we ascended towards the mouth of the well, the horizon indeed had expanded into a vast world.  Thanks to the principle of equal opportunity, flawed as it has often been, many of the offspring had finished their higher education and gone forward into the professions: we have produced a doctor, a meteorologist/air pollution specialist, an industrial product designer, a medical center comptroller, a hi-tech products educator, a computer systems infrastructure manager, a doctor/optometrist, a pharmacist, two computer applications consultants, two Wall Street money managers, an economist, a social worker,  two postal workers, etc, etc, plus a chef, a restaurant manager and a dish washer. I am sure I have not listed them all.  The cultural and racial integration of the past decades have made the melting pot a lot more real to my generation and those that are following.  At least in the pot things, including opportunities, are a little more equal.
     

    So, when people are put in an equal environment such as schools, the workplace, the buses, the armed forces, etc, the close associations among people generate sentiments and often affection and love in a natural way.  Perhaps raw genetics in the pot are sneakily arranging marriages for the production of healthier and smarter kids.  This has been so obvious to me when I looked at the younger set. First, my first born Darren married Sarah Prince, of English and other European stock.  As far as I know, Darren never had a Chinese girl friend when he was younger.  Same can be said about Jing, my second-born.  Cousin Tommy and his wife Lucy have five daughters, one married an Italian, one an Irish, one a Chinese, and the rest married outside our race as well. Wilbur Tong in Detroit married a Hindu girl, and had, from the wedding pictures, a very interesting and unusual ceremony which took hours.  The Yu brothers of New Rochelle, Sherman and Raymond were also gobbled up by the hungry pot.  Sherman, a JD, married a girl of German descent from Texas, a beautiful woman and an accomplished CPA, and has two beautiful children. The boy is extremely active; and the girl is just peaches and cream.  Raymond married a very beautiful Korean-American girl, who was trained as a lawyer, and they now have two equally beautiful children, a boy and a girl. 
     

    I want to someday be able to vote for anyone of these children when, not if, he or she runs for the U.S. Senate or for a higher office. That desire, although not likely to materialize in my lifetime, is after all what this great country and this melting pot are all about. 
     

    Believe me.                                                                  (EYT053105)

    This essay is dedicated to the upcoming generations of the American Tongs who, while growing roots in this beautiful, new land, will inevitably want to remember their Chinese roots as well.

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    Note 1. The Chinese surname Tong has several meanings, among them SOUP, HOT WATER; and in Japan, they refer to a hot spring as Tang (pronounced as “T’ahng”), a Mandarin pronunciation of the word. In Cantonese the word is pronounced as Tong, a spelling adopted by the Boston Tongs as they had for a couple of generations undergone some urbanization in the City of Canton and Hong Kong. Back in the home village, however, the name would be known as Hong, following the local dialect.

    Note 2.  Feminists will flip their lids at this Chinese custom.  In all genealogies that I have seen, wives are referred to by their maiden last name followed by the word Shee, meaning something like “clan”.  Never have I seen a given name for a woman, as if she was nameless. Furthermore, in the familiar address, an older woman is referred to as Moo or Sim, something like “aunt, wife of so-and-so”. For example, a person out side of the clan would politely call Harry’s wife Doo-Toy Moo (or Sim), but never her given name of Fon Tai, or Aunt Fon Tai. In official documents, she would be known as Wong Shee, roughly translated: “Woman of the Wong clan” (or, in a more polite form: “Lady of the Wong clan”). That flips your lid, too? Oh, well, okay.

    Note 3.  In January of 2005, I attended the funeral of sister Jade, Harry’s only daughter, in New Rochelle , NY, in bitter, windy cold. At the warming dinner afterwards, her grandson Sherman Yu had asked if I would tell him more about his grandmother and great grandparents on the Tong side. Out of this request has come this discourse of what I know about the American Tongs and their derivatives.  What I say here may not be completely true, but true to the best of my recollection. This piece is written specifically for Sherman and those branching off of the Tong tree interested in their roots.


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